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Racial/Disability/Gender/Sexuality Focused: Why are members of the LGBTQ+ community at higher risk of alcohol-related problems?

by Simar Kaur | Jun 26, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

As progressive as today’s society has become, bigotry and discrimination are still common issues faced amongst minority groups from outsiders, especially the LGBTQ+ community. The LGBTQ+ community has a long and violent history of targeted hatred due to religious and conservative beliefs. Massachusetts was the first state to legalize gay marriage in 2003. Presidents such as President Bush openly opposed this sentiment, going as far as introducing a constitutional amendment that would define marriage as strictly between a man and a woman.

Marriage equality was only achieved in 2013 after the Supreme Court ruling in Hollingsworth vs. Perry. The Fair Housing Act was only upheld in 2020 during a Supreme Court ruling that prohibited landlords from discriminating on the basis of sexual identity or gender. However, though bills and amendments have been passed at state and federal levels, this is not to say the LGBTQ+ community doesn’t face discrimination and prejudice still.

Only recently, there has been an overwhelming hatred from more right-wing identifying individuals against transgender individuals. The hatred was largely apparent when beer company, Budlight, featured a new transgender partnership with Dylan Mulvaney. Following this commercial, many conservative and unaccepting people were seen posting videos and pictures of them on social media going into stores and throwing Bud Light cans or damaging and draining any cans they had laying around.

Binge drinking, alcoholism, and alcohol abuse rates are 20% to 25% in the LGBTQ+ community compared to 5-10% alcohol abuse rates in heterosexual communities. In fact, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, gay, bisexual, and lesbian individuals- specifically adolescents- are 90% more likely to use drugs and alcohol than hetrosexual adolescents. In a society that prides itself in being more accepting than past generations, why are members of the LGBTQ+ community still at higher risk of alcohol-related problems?

A few reasons the LGBTQ+ community is still at higher risk of alcohol-related problems are as follows: minority stress, discrimination and hatred, having to be closeted and having little to no support system. All these factors can cause severe emotional distress, anxiety, depression, fear, and low self esteem. This leads many to turn to alcohol in attempts to self medicate. Drinking is also a big part in LGBTQ+ history, as in the past, the only place many of these individuals could openly be themselves were in bars catered to their identities.

– Minority Stress: Minority stress is the high levels of stress experienced by minority and marginalized groups. This type of stress can have a huge impact on sense of identity, and can cause mental disorders on top of alcohol abuse.

– Discrimination and Hatred: It is no secret that there are still a handful of less tolerant regions in America where discrimination and hatred run rampant against LGBTQ+ identifying indviduals. Work environment, legal protections, youth and family support, health access and safety, and religious and political attitudes are all factors that play into how inclusive a state is in regards to this community. States such as Florida, Montana, and South Carolina have some of the lowest ranking for inclusivity for the LGBTQ+ community, fueling discrimination and hatred against these individuals.

– Having to be Closeted/ Having Little to no Support System: As accepting as we as a collective society have become, there is a large percentage of the world that is very against the LGBTQ+ community. Individuals of this community may be sent to conversion camps by their families and loved ones if they reveal their true selves in hopes of them changing to fit into a box. In other countries, individuals may even be sent to prison or executed for expressing themselves. Reasons like these and many others are why many still have to be closeted. They have little to no support system around them, so they turn to drugs and alcohol to find comfort.

If you are struggling with identity issues, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com

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Breaking Free: A Guide to Escaping Toxic Relationships

by Simar Kaur | May 24, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

Breaking Free: A Guide to Escaping Toxic Relationships

Have you ever felt like you are in a toxic relationship with a friend or a partner? Every year, it seems more and more common, even trendy to discuss the toxicity of our relationships. Toxic relationships can drain us emotionally, mentally, and even physically. They can hinder our personal growth, erode our self-esteem, and create a cycle of negativity in our lives. Escaping such relationships is essential for our well-being and happiness.

So, how can we break free from toxic relationships and build a healthier, more fulfilling life?

Recognize Toxic Patterns:

The first step in escaping a toxic relationship is to recognize the signs and patterns that indicate toxicity. These may include constant criticism, manipulation, emotional abuse, lack of respect, and a persistent feeling of unhappiness or dissatisfaction. By acknowledging these red flags, you can gain clarity about the toxic dynamics at play and understand that you deserve better.

Self-Reflection and Setting Boundaries:

Self-reflection is crucial in understanding why you entered or stayed in a toxic relationship. It is important to recognize any underlying patterns or beliefs that may have contributed to your involvement. Once you have gained this insight, it becomes easier to set healthy boundaries and communicate your needs and expectations clearly. Boundaries protect your emotional well-being and help establish the foundation for healthier relationships moving forward.

Seek Support:

Breaking free from a toxic relationship is not an easy journey to embark on alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide support, guidance, and a listening ear. Sharing your experiences and feelings with someone who understands can validate your emotions and offer valuable perspective as you navigate the process of leaving the toxic relationship.

Building a Supportive Network:

Surrounding yourself with a supportive network of individuals who uplift and empower you is essential. Seek out positive and nurturing relationships that encourage personal growth, understanding, and respect. Engage in activities and communities that align with your interests and values, providing you with a sense of belonging and connection.

Investing in Self-Care:

Prioritizing self-care is crucial during the process of leaving a toxic relationship. Take time for activities that bring you joy, practice self-compassion, and engage in practices that promote physical and emotional well-being, such as exercise, meditation, and journaling. Nurturing yourself allows for healing and helps you regain confidence and resilience.

Creating a Vision for the Future:

Visualizing the future you desire is a powerful tool for breaking free from toxic relationships. Envision the kind of relationships and experiences you want to cultivate moving forward. Setting goals and focusing on personal growth will motivate you to move away from toxicity and embrace a life filled with love, respect, and happiness.

Escaping a toxic relationship requires courage, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal well-being. By recognizing the signs of toxicity, setting boundaries, seeking support, building a supportive network, investing in self-care, and envisioning a brighter future, you can break free from toxic relationships and create a life filled with positivity and fulfillment. Remember, you deserve to be surrounded by healthy relationships that uplift and inspire you.

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If you are in toxic relationship and need help, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com

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Breaking Cultural Barriers: Seeking Mental Health Treatment

by Staci Weiner Psy.D | May 15, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

Breaking Cultural Barriers: Seeking Mental Health Treatment

In today’s interconnected world, mental health has become an increasingly important topic. However, many individuals from diverse cultural backgrounds face significant barriers when it comes to seeking mental health treatment. Cultural factors, such as stigmatization, language barriers, and lack of awareness, can impede access to the care they need.

How can we overcome these cultural barriers and empower individuals to prioritize their mental well-being?.

Destigmatizing Mental Health:

One of the most critical steps in overcoming cultural barriers is to challenge the stigma surrounding mental health. Cultures may have different beliefs and attitudes towards mental illness, often leading to discrimination and marginalization.

By initiating open conversations, sharing personal experiences, and promoting education, we can debunk misconceptions and foster a more accepting environment.

Promoting Cultural Competence in Mental Health:

Mental health professionals should embrace cultural competence to better understand and serve individuals from diverse backgrounds.

This involves learning about cultural norms, beliefs, and values, as well as addressing cultural biases that may affect treatment approaches. By fostering a culturally sensitive environment, mental health providers can build trust and improve the efficacy of their services.

Language Accessibility and Interpretation Services:

Language barriers can significantly hinder individuals’ ability to access mental health services. To overcome this challenge, healthcare organizations should strive to provide language accessibility through professional interpreters or multilingual staff members.

Offering translated materials and ensuring that mental health information is available in various languages will help bridge the communication gap and enhance treatment accessibility.

Community Outreach and Awareness Programs:

Raising awareness about mental health within culturally diverse communities is vital. Community organizations, religious institutions, and cultural centers can play a crucial role in promoting mental health awareness and destigmatization. Hosting workshops, support groups, and educational events can empower individuals to seek help and break the silence surrounding mental health issues.

Culturally-Adapted Treatment Options:

Recognizing the diversity of cultural perspectives on mental health, it is essential to develop culturally-adapted treatment options. Mental health services should incorporate culturally sensitive practices that respect the values and beliefs of different communities. Tailoring therapeutic interventions to align with cultural norms and practices can enhance engagement and treatment outcomes.

Peer Support Networks:

Peer support networks create safe spaces for individuals to connect with others who have similar experiences. These networks can be particularly valuable for individuals facing cultural barriers in seeking mental health treatment. Connecting with peers who share a similar cultural background can provide a sense of belonging, understanding, and encouragement to seek professional help.

Collaboration and Partnerships:

Collaboration between mental health providers, community leaders, and cultural organizations is essential to address cultural barriers effectively. By fostering partnerships, healthcare professionals can gain valuable insights into specific cultural needs and collaborate on initiatives that promote mental health awareness and access to treatment.

Online and Telehealth Services:

In the digital age, online platforms and telehealth services offer innovative solutions to overcome cultural barriers. These technologies provide remote access to mental health resources and consultations, removing geographical and transportation obstacles.

Offering multilingual online resources and teletherapy services can extend the reach of mental health support to individuals who might otherwise face significant cultural barriers.

Overcoming cultural barriers to seeking mental health treatment is an ongoing process that requires collaboration, awareness, and cultural sensitivity. By destigmatizing mental health, promoting cultural competence, providing language accessibility, raising awareness, offering culturally-adapted treatments, fostering peer support networks, and leveraging technology, we can create a more inclusive and supportive environment for individuals from diverse cultural backgrounds.

Together, we can break down the walls that stand in the way of mental health and ensure that everyone has the opportunity to seek the help they need.

Please send us a quick message if you have any questions.

If you would like us to help you work through a difficult time, or want to learn more about our practice,

please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our

website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us/ or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com/

An experienced counselor specializing in Adult Counseling can help.

How can we protect our teenagers from binge drinking?

by Aruzhan Kussainova | May 12, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

Binge drinking among teenagers is a serious issue that can lead to a range of problems, including addiction, accidents, and health issues. As parents, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your teens about the dangers of binge drinking and how to make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol. However, it can get difficult due to the unstable and emotional states of teenagers. In addition, teens can get negatively influenced by other peers causing them to think that they are not “cool enough” or fear that they will find themselves socially alone. Therefore, parents need to navigate the way they explain binge drinking to kids and help them to avoid the pitfalls of getting into bad habits in general.

First and foremost, it is important to establish trust and communication with your teenager. This means creating an environment where your teen feels comfortable talking to you about difficult or sensitive topics. Start by showing an interest in your teen’s life and asking open-ended questions about their friends, interests, and activities. Listen actively and without judgment, and avoid lecturing or criticizing them.

When it comes to talking specifically about binge drinking, it’s important to provide accurate and factual information about the risks and consequences. Explain that binge drinking can lead to accidents, poor decision-making, and serious health problems such as alcohol poisoning. Use examples from real-life situations, such as news stories or personal experiences, to help illustrate the potential dangers.

It’s also important to set clear expectations and boundaries when it comes to alcohol use. Let your teen know that you expect them to make responsible choices when it comes to drinking and that there are consequences for breaking the rules. Discuss the legal drinking age and the potential legal consequences of underage drinking. Make it clear that you will not tolerate underage drinking or binge drinking, and that there will be consequences if your expectations are not met.

Another important aspect of talking to your teen about binge drinking is teaching them how to make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol. Encourage your teen to think critically about their own behavior and to make choices that prioritize their safety and well-being. Discuss strategies for avoiding situations where alcohol is present, such as choosing activities that don’t involve drinking or leaving a party if things start to get out of hand. Teach your teen to always have a plan for getting home safely if they do choose to drink, and to never get behind the wheel of a car after drinking.

Overall, talking to your teenager about binge drinking requires a balance of providing information, setting boundaries, and promoting responsible decision-making. By establishing trust and open communication, setting clear expectations, and teaching your teen to prioritize their safety and well-being, you can help them make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol use.

Please send us a quick message if you have any questions.

If you would like us to help you work through a difficult time, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com

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7 ways to maintain balance and self care

by Aruzhan Kussainova | May 4, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

Maintaining balance and taking care of oneself is essential for a healthy and fulfilling life. However, it is simple to forget to take time for ourselves when faced with the stress and demands of daily life. You come home after a long day at work and all you can do is watch TV with some soda.

Sometimes you can get so exhausted with all the things that are happening in your life, you lose all the motivation to do anything. This can lead to depression or just a lost interest in life or the things you used to enjoy before. In order to help you feel more rooted and in control of your life, let’s go through seven strategies for maintaining balance and self-care.

1. Prioritize Sleep: One of the most crucial aspects of self-care is getting enough sleep. Adequate rest can make a huge difference in your mood, productivity, and overall health. Create a sleep schedule that works for you and stick to it as much as possible. Make sure to get between 7-9 hours of sleep each night to wake up feeling refreshed and energized.

2. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help us stay present in the moment, reduce stress, and improve our overall well-being. Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine, such as meditation or yoga. Take a few deep breaths throughout the day and check in with yourself to see how you’re feeling.

3. Stay Active: Exercise is another essential aspect of self-care. Regular physical activity can help reduce stress, improve mood, and boost your energy levels. Find an activity that you enjoy, such as walking, running, or dancing, and make it a part of your routine.

4. Eat a Balanced Diet: A healthy diet is vital for maintaining balance and self-care. Make sure to include plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins in your diet. Avoid processed foods and excessive amounts of sugar, caffeine, and alcohol, as they can negatively affect your energy levels and mood.

5. Connect with Others: Social connection is critical for our well-being. Make time to connect with friends and family, even if it’s just a quick phone call or text message. Join a social group or club that aligns with your interests, or volunteer for a cause you’re passionate about.

6. Practice Gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful practice that can shift our perspective and increase our sense of well-being. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, whether it’s the people in your life, a beautiful sunset, or a good meal.

7. Take Time for Yourself: Finally, make sure to take time for yourself each day. Do something that brings you joy, whether it’s reading a book, taking a bubble bath, or going for a walk in nature. Taking time for yourself is not selfish; it’s an essential aspect of self-care.

In conclusion, maintaining balance and self-care is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling life. By incorporating these seven practices into your daily routine, you can improve your well-being, reduce stress, and feel more grounded and centered in your life. Remember to prioritize rest, stay active, eat a balanced diet, connect with others, practice gratitude, and take time for yourself.

It is essential to find time for these activities, they can be your recovery from the long day. Try to replace unhealthy habits with self-care. This will improve not just your physical and mental health, but the way you look at life.

If you would like us to help you work through a difficult time, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com

An experienced counselor specializing in Adult Counseling can help.

What are the Positive and Negative Effects of Being Single?

by Aruzhan Kussainova | Apr 23, 2023 | ADULT COUNSELING

Are you single? Do you ever wonder what happened to your ex or think about stalking him/her on instagram? Are you currently seeing someone? Do you ever feel lonely? – These are some of the questions single people hear on a daily basis. It seems like being single is like a new disease in today’s world. Everybody understands how frustrating it can be to carry this social burden on their shoulders. It can feel overwhelming to hear the comments and pieces of advice from people all around you.

Sometimes even your phone shows you advertisements about dating websites. However, nobody wonders how you actually feel. Maybe you feel fabulous being by yourself! Or, if you haven’t found your soulmate, maybe you are scared of going back into the game due to your past experiences.

The summation of these statements can result in anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and just a constantly overwhelmed state of mind. But let’s not get negative about that and look at both sides of this coin. Being single can have both positive and negative effects on our mental health and life. Here are some possible positive and negative effects of being single:

Positive effects:

Autonomy and independence: Being single allows individuals to have more control over their lives and make decisions without having to consider a partner’s preferences or needs.
Personal growth: Being single can give individuals the time and space to focus on personal growth, self-discovery, and self-improvement.
Social life: Being single can provide individuals with more time and freedom to socialize with friends, family, and other people, which can be beneficial for mental health and overall well-being.
Flexibility: Being single provides individuals with the flexibility to pursue their passions and interests without having to compromise with a partner’s schedule or preferences.

Negative effects:

Loneliness: Being single can lead to feelings of loneliness, which can have negative effects on mental health and well-being.
Lack of emotional support: Being single means not having a consistent source of emotional support from a romantic partner, which can be challenging during times of stress or difficulty.
Stigma: Being single can sometimes carry a social stigma or be perceived as undesirable, which can negatively impact an individual’s self-esteem and mental health.
Financial strain: Being single can also lead to financial strain, as individuals may have to bear the full cost of living expenses alone.

Romantic life status can be as wonderful and challenging. It’s important to note that the effects of being single on mental health and life can vary widely depending on the individual’s circumstances, personality, and social support network. Ultimately, whether being single has a positive or negative effect on an individual’s mental health and life is highly dependent on the individual’s unique experiences and perspective. However, if your relationship with someone or with yourself bothers you and causes anxiety and depression, it is important to take the right actions and not let the situation become worse.

Please send us a quick message if you have any questions.

If you would like us to help you work through a difficult time, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us/ or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com/

An experienced counselor specializing in Adult Counseling can help.