Couples Therapy
Do You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner?
• Is there a shift in your relationship that you did not expect?
• Would you like to strengthen the connection between you and your partner?
• Do you feel resentment building towards your partner and find yourself snapping or losing patience often?
• Are you both having difficulty communicating with each other and might benefit from an objective perspective to problem solve effectively?
When you are in a relationship that is disconnected, it can feel lonely, invalidating, and painful. The excitement and honeymoon period that you initially experienced can keep a couple going for a while, but over time, it is typical for this energy to change.
Changes In Your Relationship Dynamic Can Be Confusing
After a couple experiences the spark of the first date, and then the honeymoon period that follows, the dynamic of your relationship may change. The way you and your partner express yourselves to each other will also shift as you become more comfortable with one another over time. This may lead to miscommunication, or even a lack of communication leading one or both of you to feel concerned that something may be wrong with your relationship. It can also cause bickering or constant arguing which can make you feel like your needs and opinions are not being heard or understood.
When couples routinely argue, this can result in a toxic environment, high stress, and it can cause one or both of you to shut down completely. At that point, neither of you can get through to the other, and it is a lonely state to be in. All you want to do is feel like a team again. With the help of couples counseling, you can learn to develop the connection you once had and remind yourself of that initial spark that brought you together in the first place.
It Is Not If You Face Challenges, But How You Face The Challenges That Matters.
Life is full of challenges. Every couple is going to deal with difficulties in life as well as in their relationship. No one goes through life without pain, obstacles, or moments of unhappiness.
These obstacles—like health problems, the death of a parent, or your children leaving home have the potential to affect a person’s emotions or behavior which can in turn, impact the dynamic of the couple. Stressful situations, anxiety, and depression can cause problems in communication or persistent arguing. It is important for couples to learn how to tackle life’s challenges together. This is the secret sauce to becoming a successful team. It is not being a couple without problems. It is being a couple who can solve their problems together and support each other through them that is important.
Do You Feel The Intimacy Is Missing In Your Relationship?
Many couples who have been together for some time have a tendency to avoid discussing their concerns and desires with family, friends, and even one another. Holding one’s feelings and intimate desires inside can lead to infidelity and can create a lack of trust, leaving you feeling like you are living with a friend or acquaintance, instead of an intimate partner.
If this space between the couple grows over time, one or both people may let other parts of their lives such as career, hobbies, or friends, take priority over their commitment to working on their marriage. In some instances, the couple becomes so far disconnected that one partner or both partners may feel neglected, and this can lead to divorce.
Where there is great love, there is also the potential for great loss, as relationships can be fragile if we do not nurture them properly. The good news is, that with the help of a compassionate, experienced couples therapist you can get back to feeling connected, nurtured, and satisfied in your relationship.
Couples Therapy Can Help You Find Your Spark Again
While all couples go through ups and downs, the Couples Therapists at Apple Psychological have dealt with the issues that many couples face both personally and professionally. We have therapists trained in using the Gottman Method approach, Cognitive Behavioral Strategies, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Interpersonal Therapy, among other treatment methods.
We combine our extensive experience in couples therapy with a hopeful, optimistic approach. Whether the problem you are dealing with happened three weeks ago or 30 years ago, we believe that couples counseling can help you learn to communicate better, accept your partner’s positive and negative qualities, learn what you can and cannot control, as well as change, grow and heal within your relationship.
Couples Therapy At Apple Psychological
In our couples therapy sessions at Apple Psychological, we’ll address each person as an individual, learning their specific needs, worries, and goals. Each couples therapy session is 90 minutes. We make couples therapy sessions longer than our traditional individual therapy sessions to make sure each person has a sufficient amount of time to express themselves and work through the issues presented in the session.
No Two Couples Are The Same
Couples counseling sessions at Apple Psychological are individually tailored to meet the needs of the individuals and the couple itself. The first step in any therapy is to develop a strong, solid, trusting therapeutic relationship with the couple, understanding each person’s needs, concerns, and goals as well as the goals of the couple together. Once the clients can engage in a trusting relationship with their therapist, they are able to relax and work towards finding the root cause behind their relationship difficulties.
At Apple Psychological, we believe in a positive approach towards understanding what brought you both together initially and use that strength-based foundation to develop strategies to help increase effective communication now and in the future.
When you are going through difficult times, it is challenging to remember the moments of love and satisfaction that brought you together. You may feel like the person who is standing in front of you is not the same person you married. In fact, everyone is constantly changing, and the truth is no one really stays the same as we continue to grow and have new experiences. As you face obstacles in your career, family, and personal lives, your behavior and feelings will shift.
Couples therapy can help you develop important insights into your partner and yourself that will guide you regarding how to cope with these ongoing challenges in your life. Therapy will also improve your communication skills, empower you to advocate for your needs in your relationship, as well as enhance your connection with your partner feeling satisfied and more like a loving team rather than two lonely strangers.
I Still Have Some Questions About Couples Therapy…
I think that we need help, but I’ve heard that Couples Therapy can be expensive.
Couples therapy is an investment in yourself and your relationship. By making your marriage a priority in your life, you can improve your mental health by significantly reducing symptoms of stress and anxiety that can arise in times of conflict. In addition, by putting your relationship first now, it can help you avoid potentially expensive and damaging divorce proceedings.
What if other issues come up during couples therapy that should be addressed individually?
At times, individual issues can come up during couples therapy. However, you are considering couples therapy because you need help addressing challenges in your relationship. We provide a nurturing, caring, and compassionate confidential space where you can feel safe working through any issue that presents itself. At Apple Psychological, we have a team of individual therapists that you are able to choose from if you would like to address individual issues apart from the goals in couples therapy.
What if couples therapy makes things worse?
Deciding not to get help for a problem right now very likely means the problem will become larger in a few months or years. Your relationship, and others who are impacted by it, is going to change because change is inevitable. Couples therapy puts you in a position where you can learn and develop strategies to improve your situation and stop avoiding a problem that you perhaps have been avoiding for some time.
Take the First Step Towards Positive Connection and Communication
If you would like to schedule an appointment or discuss any questions you may have regarding couples therapy, we are available at 917-526-0766 or email marianne@applepsychological.com. We try to get back to all voicemails and emails within 24 hours.
Learn To Connect With Your Partner & Find That Spark Again
Couples Therapy at Apple Psychological can help you develop better communication strategies and learn the love language of your partner. Please contact us and specify your interest in couples therapy for your free, 15-minute consultation or to set up your first couples therapy session.
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