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How can we protect our teenagers from binge drinking?

Binge drinking among teenagers is a serious issue that can lead to a range of problems, including addiction, accidents, and health issues. As parents, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your teens about the dangers of binge drinking and how to make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol. However, it can get difficult due to the unstable and emotional states of teenagers. In addition, teens can get negatively influenced by other peers causing them to think that they are not “cool enough” or fear that they will find themselves socially alone. Therefore, parents need to navigate the way they explain binge drinking to kids and help them to avoid the pitfalls of getting into bad habits in general.

First and foremost, it is important to establish trust and communication with your teenager. This means creating an environment where your teen feels comfortable talking to you about difficult or sensitive topics. Start by showing an interest in your teen’s life and asking open-ended questions about their friends, interests, and activities. Listen actively and without judgment, and avoid lecturing or criticizing them.

When it comes to talking specifically about binge drinking, it’s important to provide accurate and factual information about the risks and consequences. Explain that binge drinking can lead to accidents, poor decision-making, and serious health problems such as alcohol poisoning. Use examples from real-life situations, such as news stories or personal experiences, to help illustrate the potential dangers.

It’s also important to set clear expectations and boundaries when it comes to alcohol use. Let your teen know that you expect them to make responsible choices when it comes to drinking and that there are consequences for breaking the rules. Discuss the legal drinking age and the potential legal consequences of underage drinking. Make it clear that you will not tolerate underage drinking or binge drinking, and that there will be consequences if your expectations are not met.

Another important aspect of talking to your teen about binge drinking is teaching them how to make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol. Encourage your teen to think critically about their own behavior and to make choices that prioritize their safety and well-being. Discuss strategies for avoiding situations where alcohol is present, such as choosing activities that don’t involve drinking or leaving a party if things start to get out of hand. Teach your teen to always have a plan for getting home safely if they do choose to drink, and to never get behind the wheel of a car after drinking.

Overall, talking to your teenager about binge drinking requires a balance of providing information, setting boundaries, and promoting responsible decision-making. By establishing trust and open communication, setting clear expectations, and teaching your teen to prioritize their safety and well-being, you can help them make responsible choices when it comes to alcohol use.

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7 ways to maintain balance and self care

Maintaining balance and taking care of oneself is essential for a healthy and fulfilling life. However, it is simple to forget to take time for ourselves when faced with the stress and demands of daily life. You come home after a long day at work and all you can do is watch TV with some soda.

Sometimes you can get so exhausted with all the things that are happening in your life, you lose all the motivation to do anything. This can lead to depression or just a lost interest in life or the things you used to enjoy before. In order to help you feel more rooted and in control of your life, let’s go through seven strategies for maintaining balance and self-care.

1. Prioritize Sleep: One of the most crucial aspects of self-care is getting enough sleep. Adequate rest can make a huge difference in your mood, productivity, and overall health. Create a sleep schedule that works for you and stick to it as much as possible. Make sure to get between 7-9 hours of sleep each night to wake up feeling refreshed and energized.

2. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help us stay present in the moment, reduce stress, and improve our overall well-being. Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine, such as meditation or yoga. Take a few deep breaths throughout the day and check in with yourself to see how you’re feeling.

3. Stay Active: Exercise is another essential aspect of self-care. Regular physical activity can help reduce stress, improve mood, and boost your energy levels. Find an activity that you enjoy, such as walking, running, or dancing, and make it a part of your routine.

4. Eat a Balanced Diet: A healthy diet is vital for maintaining balance and self-care. Make sure to include plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins in your diet. Avoid processed foods and excessive amounts of sugar, caffeine, and alcohol, as they can negatively affect your energy levels and mood.

5. Connect with Others: Social connection is critical for our well-being. Make time to connect with friends and family, even if it’s just a quick phone call or text message. Join a social group or club that aligns with your interests, or volunteer for a cause you’re passionate about.

6. Practice Gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful practice that can shift our perspective and increase our sense of well-being. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, whether it’s the people in your life, a beautiful sunset, or a good meal.

7. Take Time for Yourself: Finally, make sure to take time for yourself each day. Do something that brings you joy, whether it’s reading a book, taking a bubble bath, or going for a walk in nature. Taking time for yourself is not selfish; it’s an essential aspect of self-care.

In conclusion, maintaining balance and self-care is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling life. By incorporating these seven practices into your daily routine, you can improve your well-being, reduce stress, and feel more grounded and centered in your life. Remember to prioritize rest, stay active, eat a balanced diet, connect with others, practice gratitude, and take time for yourself.

It is essential to find time for these activities, they can be your recovery from the long day. Try to replace unhealthy habits with self-care. This will improve not just your physical and mental health, but the way you look at life.

If you would like us to help you work through a difficult time, or want to learn more about our practice, please reach out to our team at: (917) 526-0766, visit our website at: https://applepsychological.com/contact-us or book a FREE consultation call at https://applepsychological.janeapp.com

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What are the Positive and Negative Effects of Being Single?

Are you single? Do you ever wonder what happened to your ex or think about stalking him/her on instagram? Are you currently seeing someone? Do you ever feel lonely? – These are some of the questions single people hear on a daily basis. It seems like being single is like a new disease in today’s world. Everybody understands how frustrating it can be to carry this social burden on their shoulders. It can feel overwhelming to hear the comments and pieces of advice from people all around you. 

 

Sometimes even your phone shows you advertisements about dating websites. However, nobody wonders how you actually feel. Maybe you feel fabulous being by yourself! Or, if you haven’t found your soulmate, maybe you are scared of going back into the game due to your past experiences. 

 

The summation of these statements can result in anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and just a constantly overwhelmed state of mind. But let’s not get negative about that and look at both sides of this coin. Being single can have both positive and negative effects on our mental health and life. Here are some possible positive and negative effects of being single:

 

Positive effects:

  • Autonomy and independence: Being single allows individuals to have more control over their lives and make decisions without having to consider a partner’s preferences or needs.
  • Personal growth: Being single can give individuals the time and space to focus on personal growth, self-discovery, and self-improvement.
  • Social life: Being single can provide individuals with more time and freedom to socialize with friends, family, and other people, which can be beneficial for mental health and overall well-being.
  • Flexibility: Being single provides individuals with the flexibility to pursue their passions and interests without having to compromise with a partner’s schedule or preferences.

Negative effects:

  • Loneliness: Being single can lead to feelings of loneliness, which can have negative effects on mental health and well-being.
  • Lack of emotional support: Being single means not having a consistent source of emotional support from a romantic partner, which can be challenging during times of stress or difficulty.
  • Stigma: Being single can sometimes carry a social stigma or be perceived as undesirable, which can negatively impact an individual’s self-esteem and mental health.
  • Financial strain: Being single can also lead to financial strain, as individuals may have to bear the full cost of living expenses alone.

Romantic life status can be as wonderful and challenging. It’s important to note that the effects of being single on mental health and life can vary widely depending on the individual’s circumstances, personality, and social support network. Ultimately, whether being single has a positive or negative effect on an individual’s mental health and life is highly dependent on the individual’s unique experiences and perspective. However, if your relationship with someone or with yourself bothers you and causes anxiety and depression, it is important to take the right actions and not let the situation become worse. 

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TIPS FOR THE SOBER-CURIOUS IN 2023

In recent years, a new wave of sober curious individuals has been emerging. Younger adults are putting down the beers and wine glasses for a more sober living. Though popular, alcohol is quite poisonous to your body- and many are finally waking up from Sunday Scaries and recognizing the destruction alcohol causes on our bodies and minds. It has even been said that there is no safe amount of alcohol consumption that does not affect health. Myths have been spreading around speaking on health benefits of drinking red wine or consuming other types of alcohol- but these are simply just myths and the general public is catching on. Though trendy, being sober is quite beneficial to your physical and mental health. Below are a few tips for those who are interested in sobriety but do not know where to start. 

  1. Non alcoholic beverages 

The past two years or so have seen a huge surge in non-alcoholic spirits. I have dabbled a little bit in the non-alcoholic spirit realm and found the following ones to be my favorites: – Kin Euphorics: My review may be a little biased, as I do really admire one of the co-founders of the brand, supermodel Bella Hadid. However, Kin Euphorics has truly been one of my favorite drinks in rotation this past year. Kin Euhporics comes in sleek, colorful packaging and is made with ingredients to nourish the mind and body. Infused with adaptogens, nootropics, and botanics, this drink is guaranteed to give you a little pep in your step. They also come in a few different flavors, such as Lightwave (geared more towards sleep), Kin Spritz (geared more towards energy), and Actual Sunshine (gear more towards immunity) to name a few. 

– Ghia: Ghia is the more well-known non-alcoholic aperitif, and for good reason too. Their little cans are absolutely delicious and leave me not reminiscing on the taste of alcohol. Ghia is sugar-free, non-caffeinated, vegan, and uses no artificial flavoring. Ghia has been recognized in numerous publications since its emergence, from Washington Post to Vanity Fair and even Vogue. Their three bestselling flavors include Ginger, Soda, and Lime & Salt, and each one is equally mouth watering good (especially in the summer seasons)! 

 

Sober Bars & Mocktails 

 

Sine sobriety is becoming more of a trend, sober bars have been becoming popularized in urban settings. Publications such as New York Times and Food & Wine have even curated lists of the best sober bars in cities like New York. Sober bars provide individuals to still get a chance to enjoy the social setting of a bar, without the alcohol. To me, this sounds amazing! I can enjoy playing pool and chatting with friends without having to hear nearby drunk people yelling to talk to each other? Sign me up. 

 

Places like sober bars are typically stocked up with not only non-alcoholic beverages and spirits, but have a mocktail menu as well. This gives people a chance to enjoy the taste of their favorite alcoholic beverages without all the negative side effects. If you live in an area that does not have a sober bar, don’t worry because the internet and Pinterest is loaded with mocktail recipes you can make by yourself. My favorites include a virgin Paloma, Pina Colada, a virgin blueberry mojito! 

Finding hobbies/ finding friends who do not just want to go out frequently 

Another key to not only surviving sobriety, but enjoying it is to find hobbies and to find friends that you can hang out with without alcohol consumption invovled.. A big thing people struggle with when first entering the sober space is realizing how a vast majority of their friends were only their ‘going-out friends.’ Meaning, besides seeing them every weekend and getting drunk together, they know very little about each other. This can make people feel extremely isolated, but the key is to see this as a chance to create friendships that are truly meaningful. Luckily, today we have the power of social media and apps like Bumble BFF that can help connect you to others in your area. Finding friends you can connect with without being under the influence can really build some of the strongest adult friendships. 

 

Another big thing is to find hobbies. Now that you aren’t spending all this time and money on going out and drinking, you have more space to explore personal interests. You can pick up painting, learn how to crochet, begin experimenting with different art mediums like photography and film, or reconnect with a sport you grew up playing. Doing activities like so will help you find the way back to your true self and feel more confident and energized. It is self-care to do hobbies, and it is so fun and gives you a chance to continue learning throughout adulthood. 

 

Getting offline 

For me, a big thing I struggle with is FOMO. Especially the past few months, I have made the choice to be sober for a while since it is my senior year and I wish to finish the year strong. While sobriety has been really revitalizing and has helped me really gain control over my mental and physical health, I still get a lot of FOMO when I am on my phone on weekends and see everyone I used to be ‘friends’ with be together and having fun. But then, it hits me, I am happy and grounded on my couch on a Friday night working on my latest moodboard. I do not need to be out and about to enjoy my life. But, besides constantly trying to step back and evaluate the situation, getting off social media has done wonders to not feeling FOMO. 

What I cannot see cannot hurt me, so in this case, I think being oblivious is better than feeling left out. Getting off social media in general is so necessary in today’s day and age when we are so plugged in and tuned into everything happening around us. I personally do not think we were meant to know this much about strangers, and social media has led to so many insecurities and anxieties in individuals. No longer does life just feel like life; it feels like a constant competition of who is doing better/ wearing better clothes/ going on better vacations/ etc. 

 

For those entering sobriety, getting off social media for the first few weeks can help you truly get in touch with your sober journey without having continual second thoughts. It can help you just experience your journey, instead of having you dread it because everyone else looks like they are having so much fun.

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KID AT HEART, ADULT BY FORCE

TIPS FOR ADULTS 

    1.Exercising or moving your body daily: I know, never heard this one before. But it does truly make a huge difference. If you do not have time to do a full workout, just taking a five minute walk outside and getting some fresh air can make a huge difference. 

    2.Having a growth mindset: Many of us are taught from a young age that we can only get so smart- some people are just born with it. This is false! In adults, it is essential to be able to learn from your mistakes and to grow from them. Mistakes happen, but learning why they happen can be important in avoiding the same ones in the future. 

    3.Time Management: Being an adult is a busy life. You have work, your personal life, social life, family life, school (if you are still attending), and so on. It can be quite hard to manage all these things and to stay on top of everything. A huge way to balance various events and activities is writing down daily or weekly to do lists. This gives your brain to be able to visualize all your tasks, and it is very gratifying to cross them out as you finish them! 

    4.Diet and Sleep: What you eat and how much you sleep play a huge part in how you feel on a day to day basis. If you are eating unhealthy pretty frequently, you may feel sluggish and lack motivation. If you are not sleeping enough, you will be feeling very tired and unable to focus on your tasks. Making sure you get around 8 hours of sleep is key for personal wellbeing. A good feature that is accessible on iPhones is the Health app. The app provides a section for you to block out your sleeping time, and by doing this, your phone will automatically go on do not disturb at your bedtime and it also tracks how much sleep you get. Eating healthy is also key. Pinterest and Youtube are great places to find inspiration for meals. Meal prepping or meal kits could also make your weekday meals much easier. 

    5.Budgeting and Finances: Finances are tough. But, there are various tools online to help keep track of your finances. I have an excel sheet I keep that tracks how much money I make a month, and how much I spent in the same month. This helps me see where most of my money is being spent and helps me notice bad spending patterns. My rule for savings is to always set aside some money every paycheck I get; it does not have to be a certain percentage or the same amount every time, but even setting aside $20 for a savings account can be helpful. Finding a financial advisor could also be helpful for those who do not have enough time on their own hands to manage finances. 

    6.Personal Hobbies: Personal hobbies are very important to have in adulthood. It is important to set aside time for yourself weekly for you to do the things you enjoy to master a craft. Hobbies could include gardening, crocheting, reading, baking, going on bike rides, and so on. Doing a personal hobby will help you stay connected to yourself and find passion in things outside of your career and work. 

     

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    FROM CHILDHOOD TO ADULTHOOD….. IT’S TIME TO GROW UP……

    Growing up is a scary thing. When leaving adolescence and entering adulthood, you may feel anxious, scared, alone, and confused. These are all very common emotions people may feel when faced with the challenge of growing up. Gone are the days where your only responsibilities included getting on the bus and going to school. In this next phase of life, you are met with bills, making your own doctors appointments, taking care of yourself, and managing your finances.

    For me, my real step into adulthood began in my early years of high school when I began working my first job at the local bagel store. Suddenly, I was not only responsible for going to high school and going to field hockey practices, I also had to dedicate my weekends to working. Working in high school taught me a lot about various key adult skills: time management, job commitment, and the beginnings of personal finances. I was forced to get better with my tendency to procrastinate, and finish my homework before the weekend. I also was forced to face my terrible shopping addiction and stop carelessly spending so much on clothes and accessories, as I now was in charge of building up my own savings fund for college. While it was not a huge step, for me, working had allowed me to become a more responsible person.

    The proper initiation I had into adulthood did not occur until I got to college. Now, I was truly on my own. Though the commute back home was only about an hour (perks of going to college in NYC and being from NJ), I no longer had my biggest support system- my mom- around me and accessible at all times. Gone were the days of having mom take care of me while I was sick and not having to worry about what I was going to have for dinner. Now I had to make my doctor appointments and make soup for myself on sick days. I could no longer walk down to my kitchen and fix myself a plate to eat, now I had to go to my dining hall or cook my own meals. Having to move into a dorm room with two strangers taught me quite a lot. I understood the importance of communication and teamwork. My first few semesters at college taught me a lot on the importance of self-care and maintaining personal wellbeing, as now I was responsible for taking care of myself. It was definitely a time of learning and trying out various things and seeing what worked and what didn’t.

    Adulthood comes with freedom, except the very freedom can feel like a double edged sword. You can literally do whatever you want, but you are also responsible for the consequences of your actions. Yes, you could now eat pancakes three times a day if you wanted to, but you also have to deal with the fact that eating pancakes three times a day is not a sustainable food plan for yourself. Your body needs fruits, vegetables, proteins, and nutrients- and it is up to you to provide them.

    All the choices you are faced with in adulthood can be overwhelming. Many of us also struggle to make good choices for ourselves, as we mostly had the choices made for us growing up. Career goals, relationships, anxiety, and depression are just a few of the things we as adults must grapple with. But, it does not have to be a lonely and fearful time; having a therapist could drastically help alleviate some of the stresses and help build up confidence in yourself and the decisions you make.

    Please send us a quick message if you have any questions.

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